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How Bullying Affects Your Child’s Ability to Learn at School

How bullying affects learning is an interesting topic. And while this article will give you an answer, it’s probably not the one you were expecting. (As we bet you weren't aware that bullying can actually increase a child's academic performance at school!) So let’s take a look at what we already know about school bullying and how we can link the puzzle pieces correctly. 

How bullying affects children at school is a worrying situation that you can find almost anywhere in the world. What makes it more serious than any adult bullying, is the fact that children can easily develop adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) when they're exposed to abuse or neglect.

If you haven’t heard of ACEs, that’s okay – not many people have. Robert Block, the former President of the American Academy of Paediatrics even said: “Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) are the single greatest unaddressed public health threat facing our nation.”

Understanding ACEs

In short, an ACE is classified as any traumatic childhood experience that has a lasting effect on your mental and physical wellbeing. 

To really grasp this concept, try taking a step out of your own shoes here and into those of a six-year-old’s. At this time in your life, all you know and understand is that mom and dad look after you. You need to go to school and you probably really want friends so that you have people to play with. An ACE would be any trauma that affects the pillars of your life as you know it. 

This can range from someone you thought was a friend pulling your hair in class, or picking on you. Or even seeing your parents fighting while they go through a bad divorce. The trick is not to assume what may or may not be traumatic for your child and to keep an open mind.

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Bullying: How does it affect your child at school?

You’re probably no stranger to the fact that bullying is global issue, but the severity of the problem may come to surprise you. How bullying affects children at school is something that does not stop in the classroom. It can be initiated on the playground, in the classroom, after school, in a social setting or even digitally. Anyone can be bullied...

"As the only black kid in a New York City School, I was frequently bullied and beaten up." ~ Chris Rock

"Growing up, I was bullied and teased for being chubby. My nickname at school was Blubber, and I was once even locked in the art cupboard." ~ Kate Winslet

"I was taunted for my 'sticky-out ears' and lisp, as well as my long arms." ~ Michael Phelps

Bullying is defined as any negative or harmful action that someone purposefully subjects another person to repeatedly. This may sound straightforward, but there are actually many ways in which it can play out. Bullying can range from direct or indirect attacks and be expressed physically, verbally, psychologically, sexually, or through cyber platforms. 

The ways in which your child can become a bully victim continues to grow. While we can’t eliminate this risk as parents, we can proactively make sure it doesn't develop into something more.

To make things easier, you need to ask yourself three simple questions: 

  • Do I acknowledge that bullying is a serious problem?
  • Why is my child a bully victim and how is it affecting their behaviour?
  • When is it a good time to intervene and what’s the best way to go about it?
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