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Mother Helping Child Recover From Bullying

How to Successfully Help Your Child Recover from Being Bullied

So, your child has been bullied.

Now, what?

Although it is difficult to watch your child suffer the effects of bullying first-hand, there are some things you can do to help speed up the healing process.

This will not be easy and your child may resist. But if you follow these guidelines you will have a much higher chance of success.

Firstly, you need to remember that many children are embarrassed and afraid to confide in anyone about being bullied, never mind their parents.

That is why only 39% of high schoolers report bullying incidents to an adult. And when they do approach their parents, the bullying experience is often downplayed.

Do not do this!

This is the number one mistake that parents make.

You need to remember that, for your child, their world is crumbling. So, if you minimise the incident – they will feel like you are not hearing them.

Whatever you do, don’t use phrases like:

“I am sure they didn't mean it.”
“Every school has bullies.”
“Don’t take it personally.”

Your child needs your compassion and understanding before they can feel it's safe to open up. Your job is to build trust so that they will feel comfortable talking to you.

Then you can start the healing process.

Now that you know what not to do, what must you do?

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Physical Bullying: The Complete Guide for Parents

It’s hard to miss physical bullying on the playground. You will notice a punch to the eye more easily than a sly remark passed at the back of a class.

Physical bullying is most visual of the common types of bullying. If you don’t see it in action, you’ll know something is wrong after taking a look at the victim! It’s also the most classically accepted form of bullying. Most people understand why hurting another person is wrong under any circumstance.

When bullying became more understood in the 70s and 80s, it took centre stage as the main issue. Classrooms showed awareness clips that oversimplified the issue. There would always be a clear victim and a clear bully, which is often not the case. 

Bullying was defined as a punch or a kick. Which again, is also not quite true.

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me,”

was one of the key anti-bullying folk phrases released in the 1970s. The perfect example of how sensationalised physical bullying was.

Yet today, after all of the attention that has been drawn to bullying, it's still an issue of serious concern.

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Physical bullying is still a big problem. Approximately 282,000 middle school students in the USA are assaulted every month. That’s about 3,4 million kids a year, excluding those who experience any other types of bullying. And this number keeps on growing.

So the question we should be asking is (after all these years):

Do we actually know what physical bullying is? And what is the right way to deal with it?

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